"Some kids need bullying"
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I think the standard "you're a wimp" you hear on the elementary school playground (the not real harsh stuff) is kinda necessary. But bullying? Like, real bullying? No. At least not what I know I and others have gone through (or may still go through).
The only people it's necessary for are those who are so horrible inside that they need to bully to feel alive and good about themselves.
The only people it's necessary for are those who are so horrible inside that they need to bully to feel alive and good about themselves.
I don't think it's a good thing at all. You can push people to do good things, and still get the same results. It's like comparing discipline camp to bullying at school. They both are very harsh, but one of them actually teaches you something good, and you still get the same effect. Bullying sometimes leads to suicide, which is not a good thing.
Bullying is never necessary. If people really feel like they have to bully then they need to get a hobby or some kind of outlet that lets them not put down or bully other kids.
I just don't believe that there is any reason for bullying. If someone says that someone needs bullying to man up then in my opinion you're doing something wrong.
I just don't believe that there is any reason for bullying. If someone says that someone needs bullying to man up then in my opinion you're doing something wrong.
Bullying should never be an option. I don't think hurting someone psychologically (the effects of which don't go away) gives them any thicker of a skin, no matter how bad the kid is. There are other ways to get them to grow up.
Encouraging bullying is also dangerous because it sets an example for kids that bullying is normal and is expected. Kids who bully and are led to think that bullying is okay continue to do so as adults, and victims of bullying continue to be bullied as well. Bullying is common in many work places and in higher education.
Earlier today, on my way to class, I saw a protest (no joke, they were loud) held by graduate student TAs (teaching assistants) on my campus for better worker rights because their primaries (what they call superiors, a.k.a. the professors in charge) were suspected of intimidation and in few cases, bullying.
Encouraging bullying is also dangerous because it sets an example for kids that bullying is normal and is expected. Kids who bully and are led to think that bullying is okay continue to do so as adults, and victims of bullying continue to be bullied as well. Bullying is common in many work places and in higher education.
Earlier today, on my way to class, I saw a protest (no joke, they were loud) held by graduate student TAs (teaching assistants) on my campus for better worker rights because their primaries (what they call superiors, a.k.a. the professors in charge) were suspected of intimidation and in few cases, bullying.
Honestly, I think the lined between bullying and teasing has blurred and people don't know the difference anymore.
But if we're focusing on those that are truly and honestly being bullied, I have a few words.
But regardless, this is a different time than when I was in grade school. When I was in grade school, I was bullied harshly all the way up to Middle School. And I mean I had rocks thrown at me, girls/boys told me to go die and kill myself because I was "fat" and "ugly" and no one would ever love me. And my teachers told me not to be a tattletale and to learn to not let "the little things" hurt me. So I grew up to have a very thick skin, but I also learned not to tolerate it if anyone tried to mess with me.
In High School a lot of people didn't like me because I had grown to be so cold. I've learned since then, but in hindsight, being bullied wasn't the way to learn how to be thick-skinned. No one deserves to be bullied ever, they will learn as life goes on that the world is a cruel place and they need to grow a thicker skin over time, but bullying doesn't have any need to play a part in that lesson. If anything it aided in making me feel worthless, unloved, unwanted, and never good enough for most of my life. Today at 20, I still struggle with self confidence.
Kids could be cruel back then, but now a days some kids can be horrid little monsters.
But if we're focusing on those that are truly and honestly being bullied, I have a few words.
But regardless, this is a different time than when I was in grade school. When I was in grade school, I was bullied harshly all the way up to Middle School. And I mean I had rocks thrown at me, girls/boys told me to go die and kill myself because I was "fat" and "ugly" and no one would ever love me. And my teachers told me not to be a tattletale and to learn to not let "the little things" hurt me. So I grew up to have a very thick skin, but I also learned not to tolerate it if anyone tried to mess with me.
In High School a lot of people didn't like me because I had grown to be so cold. I've learned since then, but in hindsight, being bullied wasn't the way to learn how to be thick-skinned. No one deserves to be bullied ever, they will learn as life goes on that the world is a cruel place and they need to grow a thicker skin over time, but bullying doesn't have any need to play a part in that lesson. If anything it aided in making me feel worthless, unloved, unwanted, and never good enough for most of my life. Today at 20, I still struggle with self confidence.
Kids could be cruel back then, but now a days some kids can be horrid little monsters.
They don't need bullying, but they do need to be taught how to deal with it when the problem presents itself. You can't shelter a child and switch schools on them every time someone picks on them, but you also shouldn't be okay with it. Bullied kids just need more attention and help dealing with their problem, not that I'd initiate bullying on every child to "strengthen" them. Everyone handles hardships differently. If one kid can grow stronger from bullying then good for them, but this usually only happens when they get help dealing with it. To leave a kid helpless in this situation might cause them to deal with it so negatively. We can't assume that people will be okay and deal with whatever comes at them, we all need help. Like I said though, you can't keep them isolated and overprotected to prevent it. There's a balance, I guess, but I definitely can't agree that they "need" it, that's nonsense to me.
