So basically I was saying, an individual in a relationship with a POC may begin to feel they are a POC due to how they may be treated. Thus, they may begin to identify as a POC because of this. However, if their feelings about this are solely based on how they feel being in a mixed-race relationship, then, once they begin to identify as a POC, they are no longer in a "mixed-race" relationship, removing their source of discrimination and feelings associated with identifying themselves as a POC.
I didn't get that message either, however, my point was less about what I actually said and more so demonstrating how easy it can be sometimes to present an argument that is pretty nonsensical in order to justify our views, as many of these debates seem to go. Eventually, they become a contest of who can perform the most mental gymnastics to try to prove their point. I realize it may be off-topic, however, I generally think illustrating mistakes is a good way to prevent them from being made. Especially with things that can touch on deeply personal subjects where emotions may run higher than logic.
I do my best to never generalize groups of people, so I apologize if that's how my post read.
I think the biggest thing here is that, considering the events of yesterday, it's going to be very difficult to have a serious debate right now. Not that I think debates are pointless, but with things still fresh this is going to spark a similar scenario where instead of trying, people are just going to attack others.