I mean if you put off an entire race just based on their race, yeah that's racist. If you have a tendency not to be attracted toward a certain race you can't really help your biological attraction. My black friend is only attracted to white girls while i know many people who are attracted to those within their race only. For me, on trend I tend to be attracted toward certain races more than others but I wouldn't close the idea off completely because there are good looking people of every race and I might just not have come across anyone who I felt an attraction to yet which I think what most people here are saying. It's more so a trend of attraction instead of being like no you're asian I don't date asians. It's more like I'm not attracted to this race on trend usually.
If you don't want to date just based on race and not attraction then that's racist because you have a superiority complex. Some people just tend to feel more for other races and I don't see a problem with it unless you close the idea off completely just at the thought of people looking different than you.
Also, she didn't mean gender and race are the same. They're obviously not. It's a comparison so you can imagine what she is trying to say. Gay people are attracted to men and not women while one indian dude might just only get the hots for indian girls because that's what he grew up around and his body learned to have an attraction toward.
I think what you are misunderstanding is the line between racist and prejudice/discriminative. Although it may be prejudice/discriminative for a black man to say they would only date white women, it is not racist. In America (and most European colonized countries that have a majority have white/European decent), it is 100% definably impossible for anyone to be "racist" or display "racism", especially regarding this particular topic. If we were people of black/African decent in Africa (where the majority of the population is of black/African decent) and we were all saying that we are not attracted to white people it would fall under the category racist.
The point that Wonder is trying to make is, regardless if the OP knows that race and gender aren't the same, it shouldn't have been brought into this conversation. Therefore, her comment really holds no stature in this conversation. Mentioning this only further proves the point that many posters in this thread have been trying to prove about the misunderstanding of sexual attraction when it comes to other races. Although gender and race are both social constructed ideals, the premise of racism and homophobia in this instance just simply cannot be compared. I think if she had mentioned a cis not being interested in dating a trans person as an argument it would have held better in this conversation. Although the outcome would not have been different because that in itself is very transphobic.
"When you say that you wouldn’t date a certain group because of their race, how can that be anything but racist? Racism in dating preferences is a legitimate problem. The combination of Eurocentric beauty standards and racist vilification of minorities is the reason for finding people of color just “not your type.”
If someone calls you out for finding people of color less attractive or unattractive, don’t defend yourself by saying that it’s just a personal inclination as harmless as liking long hair or dimples.
Recognize that you have been influenced by a racist society that champions white beauty standards and supremacy, and maybe that you’re a part of it, too."
SITE SOURCE:
https://studybreaks.com/culture/racist-dating-preferences/
Although, I know no one is perfect, this is something that should definitely taken into consider. I myself am guilty of some dating racial prejudice (due to the fact that I tend to date within the black community and have not really moved from that mindset). At the end of the day, I think the posters on this thread don't want to shame anyone or make anyone feel bad for their opinions of beliefs, but more so try to help educate and help other people understand things from a different perspective. But, I am curious though to better understand your view points and others. What about certain races tends you to be less attracted to them? Why do you single out single races instead of all races, besides the one you originate from?
As I stated on another post:
"I don't have any other friends of other races, its just a preference. I don't hire employees of other races, its just a preference. I don't go to places that are primarily frequented by members of another race, it's just a preference."
Where do we draw the line between what is and what isn't acceptable? At the end of the day we are all different, and yes we are granted our right to our own opinions, but should we really allow those opinions to stop us from treating each other the way we would want to be treated?