sooo, lately I had something happen to me recently that adds up with a lot of the talk I hear on twitter & tumblr about problems in today's society. I always hear how girls shouldn't be afraid to tell guys they're uncomfortably or turn them down, because the guy will lash out or do something crazy. I didn't pay too much mind to it, because I had never experienced that first hand, until today. I'm in a relationship and was so beyond polite with how I turned this guy down, and he, in return, sent me long paragraphs of how I needed to stop flattering myself and my ego is inflated and how I'm not a big deal and I mean nothing, etc. and being so verbally abusive because I didn't give him what he wanted. It genuinely made me feel scared.
I know this type of thing can go both ways, boys & girls are both equally capable of lashing out when faced in situations like this, so don't think I'm slamming one gender over another.
I guess I just wanted to share this as a note to both genders; do not be that person who turns into a psychotic jerk when being rejected. be respectful, be understanding. rejection happens, it's part of human nature to be let down at times. but do not make a girl OR boy feel unsafe, and scared because they shared how they felt/gave nothing but honesty. Girls OR boys: do not feel scared to share how you feel. do not let yourself be stuck in a position where you keep going along with it, in fears of how the other might react.
I know this type of thing can go both ways, boys & girls are both equally capable of lashing out when faced in situations like this, so don't think I'm slamming one gender over another.
I guess I just wanted to share this as a note to both genders; do not be that person who turns into a psychotic jerk when being rejected. be respectful, be understanding. rejection happens, it's part of human nature to be let down at times. but do not make a girl OR boy feel unsafe, and scared because they shared how they felt/gave nothing but honesty. Girls OR boys: do not feel scared to share how you feel. do not let yourself be stuck in a position where you keep going along with it, in fears of how the other might react.
