We’re all something.
We can all identify ourselves with a single word.
Some of us are students. Maybe an employee. A mom or dad. A sibling. A son or daughter. An athlete. A really good friend. Anything. But something.
I’m a student, a sorority sister, a real life sister, and a daughter. That's what I identify myself as.
The more I play VMK, the less I identify with any of these.
The more I play VMK, the less I identify with ANYTHING other than “obsessive VMK player.”
Every since I found out about VMK’s kind of re-opening (in February,) I grew addicted quickly. I’ve been playing with purpose to accumulate items and make friends and be cool and known for something on here. My main goal this summer was to get as much as I could on VMK before I have to go back to school and I don’t have as much time to play. And I’ve gotten pretty far in these past 3 months. I’ve made some of the most AMAZING friends on this game. I’ve gotten so close to people that some of them are coming over for Thanksgiving, I’m driving up to see one of them in 3 days, and I’m making plans to go to Disneyland with others. It’s been a cool ride.
Wait for the cliche.
I’ve played so much in these past 3 months that I’ve 100% lost sight of what matters. I’ve lacked as a student. I’ve lacked as a sister. And I’ve lacked the hardest as a daughter.
As cliche as it is, it's SO accurate.
I’ve played so much in these past 3 months that I’ve become more invested in furthering and facilitating the growth of my online/virtual friendships than my real life, long term, existing friendships.
It’s taken me 3 months to realize what a lacking friend I’ve become.
I got banned yesterday (for something I think is slightly ridiculous, but that’s besides the point.) As soon as I got banned, I started laughing because it’s like, okay, this is funny, I’ve never been banned. Whatever. I guess this gives me a reason to have a day to myself, right? Right.
Wrong.
I woke up this morning this morning and instantly tried to log into VMK. Haha... oops. Didn’t work. My morning routine is VMK, then breakfast, then VMK.... then VMK. Being banned has helped be realize that this game has become an addiction. It’s become the core of my routine that I can’t seem to shake or reduce.
I’ve recently been involved in some issues and I guess we can say ‘drama’ on VMK that has affected not only me, but my friends on the game. The issues that I’ve faced with others on this game have made me sad in real life. How are we letting this happen? Why are we letting this innocent game turn into something that causes 40 and 15 year olds to argue over? Why are we letting ourselves turn into someone else when we’re online?
Girls on here who may feel the same--- why are we letting boys with bad reputations and cruel intentions talk to us romantically? Why are we getting involved in drama with other girls and creating enemies? Why are we letting this game make us sad and depressed and emotional? (this obviously doesn’t apply to all of us.)
And to some of you boys--- why are you taking advantage of girls on here? Why are you acting out with malicious intent to other people who mean no harm? Why are you pretending to be someone you aren’t and fooling your friends? Why are you manipulating girls? Why are you letting people hurt you and tease you? (again, not applicable to everyone.)
But most importantly, why am I letting this happen to me too? I’m almost 19 and I’m often offended by the words and actions of pixelated characters on my computer.
I'm an adult that's watching boys on here take advantage of girls and bully other people AND GET AWAY WITH IT, and there's little I can do about it.
I thought this was all supposed to be easy and fun and relaxing and a break from the real world.
While I am SO thankful for the rebirth of this beautiful game I’ve loved and missed so much and I am grateful to the staff for working diligently for us and clearly my problems aren't their faults, I feel like my obsessive playing made me become less of myself. And as much as I tell myself I should quit and give all my things away because I need to focus on ME, I physically cannot bring myself to do it. That’s how bad it’s gotten.
I’m not looking for pity and I’m not looking for arguments.
I wrote this because
> I have a strong feeling that I’m not the only one who feels this way, and I want to be there for anyone who might feel the same.
> I want to let guys on here know that it’s not okay to manipulate and womanize the girls on here.
> I want this game to BE easy and fun and relaxing for everyone.
I also wrote this because I wanted to know if anyone who has felt like this was able to find a solution that worked for them and break free from the chains of VMK addiction.
And I also want to give you all one piece of advice:
BE YOURSELF. NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE, WHAT YOU’RE DOING, WHO YOU’RE TALKING TO, AND WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT.
Sure this is the internet and it’s easy to fake who you are or manipulate other people. While I don’t believe in karma, I believe in a God that blesses the kind-hearted. Just because it’s an online game doesn’t mean that your cruel actions won’t catch up to you eventually.
We’re all something. Choose to be something good.
We can all identify ourselves with a single word.
Some of us are students. Maybe an employee. A mom or dad. A sibling. A son or daughter. An athlete. A really good friend. Anything. But something.
I’m a student, a sorority sister, a real life sister, and a daughter. That's what I identify myself as.
The more I play VMK, the less I identify with any of these.
The more I play VMK, the less I identify with ANYTHING other than “obsessive VMK player.”
Every since I found out about VMK’s kind of re-opening (in February,) I grew addicted quickly. I’ve been playing with purpose to accumulate items and make friends and be cool and known for something on here. My main goal this summer was to get as much as I could on VMK before I have to go back to school and I don’t have as much time to play. And I’ve gotten pretty far in these past 3 months. I’ve made some of the most AMAZING friends on this game. I’ve gotten so close to people that some of them are coming over for Thanksgiving, I’m driving up to see one of them in 3 days, and I’m making plans to go to Disneyland with others. It’s been a cool ride.
Wait for the cliche.
I’ve played so much in these past 3 months that I’ve 100% lost sight of what matters. I’ve lacked as a student. I’ve lacked as a sister. And I’ve lacked the hardest as a daughter.
As cliche as it is, it's SO accurate.
I’ve played so much in these past 3 months that I’ve become more invested in furthering and facilitating the growth of my online/virtual friendships than my real life, long term, existing friendships.
It’s taken me 3 months to realize what a lacking friend I’ve become.
I got banned yesterday (for something I think is slightly ridiculous, but that’s besides the point.) As soon as I got banned, I started laughing because it’s like, okay, this is funny, I’ve never been banned. Whatever. I guess this gives me a reason to have a day to myself, right? Right.
Wrong.
I woke up this morning this morning and instantly tried to log into VMK. Haha... oops. Didn’t work. My morning routine is VMK, then breakfast, then VMK.... then VMK. Being banned has helped be realize that this game has become an addiction. It’s become the core of my routine that I can’t seem to shake or reduce.
I’ve recently been involved in some issues and I guess we can say ‘drama’ on VMK that has affected not only me, but my friends on the game. The issues that I’ve faced with others on this game have made me sad in real life. How are we letting this happen? Why are we letting this innocent game turn into something that causes 40 and 15 year olds to argue over? Why are we letting ourselves turn into someone else when we’re online?
Girls on here who may feel the same--- why are we letting boys with bad reputations and cruel intentions talk to us romantically? Why are we getting involved in drama with other girls and creating enemies? Why are we letting this game make us sad and depressed and emotional? (this obviously doesn’t apply to all of us.)
And to some of you boys--- why are you taking advantage of girls on here? Why are you acting out with malicious intent to other people who mean no harm? Why are you pretending to be someone you aren’t and fooling your friends? Why are you manipulating girls? Why are you letting people hurt you and tease you? (again, not applicable to everyone.)
But most importantly, why am I letting this happen to me too? I’m almost 19 and I’m often offended by the words and actions of pixelated characters on my computer.
I'm an adult that's watching boys on here take advantage of girls and bully other people AND GET AWAY WITH IT, and there's little I can do about it.
I thought this was all supposed to be easy and fun and relaxing and a break from the real world.
While I am SO thankful for the rebirth of this beautiful game I’ve loved and missed so much and I am grateful to the staff for working diligently for us and clearly my problems aren't their faults, I feel like my obsessive playing made me become less of myself. And as much as I tell myself I should quit and give all my things away because I need to focus on ME, I physically cannot bring myself to do it. That’s how bad it’s gotten.
I’m not looking for pity and I’m not looking for arguments.
I wrote this because
> I have a strong feeling that I’m not the only one who feels this way, and I want to be there for anyone who might feel the same.
> I want to let guys on here know that it’s not okay to manipulate and womanize the girls on here.
> I want this game to BE easy and fun and relaxing for everyone.
I also wrote this because I wanted to know if anyone who has felt like this was able to find a solution that worked for them and break free from the chains of VMK addiction.
And I also want to give you all one piece of advice:
BE YOURSELF. NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE, WHAT YOU’RE DOING, WHO YOU’RE TALKING TO, AND WHAT YOU’RE TALKING ABOUT.
Sure this is the internet and it’s easy to fake who you are or manipulate other people. While I don’t believe in karma, I believe in a God that blesses the kind-hearted. Just because it’s an online game doesn’t mean that your cruel actions won’t catch up to you eventually.
We’re all something. Choose to be something good.
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