Ok May I suggest Amy make another character that only her friends know so she can do what other players do.
We have here a life lesson on both sides. Personally I could care less who Amy throws a party for but here is the way I think people are seeing this.
You are employed at a company And the boss holds a party for one of her employees because they are friends out side of work. Everyone is invited. However all the other staff know they will never have a special party.
Human nature causes this reaction
Some will be jealous cause they really want to be friends with the boss to.
Other will not talk to the person the party is for. They will either be afraid of something getting back to the boss. Or they will be mean to her because she is a chosen favorite. Others will be jealous. Other may be sad because they feel left out.
Other will not care and just enjoy the cake.
This happens in real life in real offices all over the place. Boss are allow to be friends with their staff however majority have decided to keep morale up in the office to keep their friendship quiet from the other employees.
So in the end the poor birthday girl was hurt and that is sad . Most players I am sure would treat her fairly. However there are many who would not. So this nice friendship surprise ended badly. I knew as soon as I heard this that it was not going to end well. Mostly for the birthday girl which is very sad. Because having life experiences you have probably encounter something like this in your work experiences.
So Amy is the boss in a sense of Myvmk the employees are the players.
Amy can chose to do what she wants in the game. However, reality is she does not have the same freedom to do so. It is sad she should but the reality says it is not. Just like a celebrity should be able to walk the streets without being harassed for autographs. Amy in a sense to some is like a celebrity too. For many put her on a pedestal. So as much as she should be able to play like other players the green eyed monster of many players will not let that happen.
So by having an account that no one knows who you are Amy then you can have the same freedom which would make the game more fun for you. Lets you be friends with who ever you want. The Original Staff of VMK did that. I never knew that some on my friendship list were actual staff.
Most players respect your right to play the way you want; to sad that there are also many who will not. We can not change everyone though I wish I could. Most I feel bad for the birthday girl and I send her hugs.
Oh I wanted to Add Amy has visited many birthday parties. So I would have seen no issue her holding a party for a friend under a character known only to her friends. Then have her real character show up and do what she has done to many players in the game. Adding some colour changed clothing, or doing special magic etc. So her friend would have had a awesome party with no drama and still had something special done