Thank you for this post, Life. I have never had more respect for somebody than for you and the time you put into making this person feel comfortable with their situation. Regardless of how it all turned out, you expedited many of the smiles and good vibes that we all saw around the kingdom - and that's all that you should remember. Even if this person was fake, you were not. The genuine care and warmth that you offered proves your loving character, and it's wrong to feel as if you need to be blamed for anything. I am glad to have gotten closer to you because of this person, and I want you to to try and cherish the friendships and smiles that you have shared. See you real soon!
We all play a game where we pretend to be things we are not. Its sad someone thought this was appropriate to pretend but consider this:
When have you seen this community come together to achieve a common goal? Usually its all about "how can I get that for me". This was one of the few times it was not about getting something for ourselves, it was about giving something of ourselves. The cause might have been a false one but the emotion, commitment and effort were not false, the love and respect shown for each other and this individual was not false and the outpouring of sentiment was not false. Consider this when you decide how and where to lay blame. Most of the individuals involved demonstrated the best of intentions and the highest form of respect you can offer in this type of venue. Pacific makes this as clear as possible, "genuine care and warmth" were shown and this fact should not be so easily dismissed.
Whether you believed this from the beginning, were a skeptic till the end or landed someplace in between, let this be a clear lesson that when needed this sometimes dysfunctional community can come together, work together and stand together. See the silver lining here, dismiss the drama and have a magical day.